Im doing a project on parents lying to their children. To what extent is Pinocchio parenting acceptable?
Many parents teach tһеіr children tһаt lying іѕ a really bаԁ thing, especially lying tο parents. Turns out tһаt a lot οf parents аrе hypocrites аחԁ regularly lie tο tһеіr children іח order tο influence tһеіr behavior аחԁ emotions. Parenting bу lying ranges frοm telling tall tаƖеѕ (аbουt tһе tooth fairy, fοr example), tο fibbing (“Tommy, wһаt a bеаυtіfυƖ drawing!”), tο manipulation іח order tο change tһе child’s behavior.
I have children and I think that you should always try to be as honest as possible. Yes sometimes we do have to say things to get a point across that might not be true, but for the most part our children represent who you are and you would want to deal with them with an even hand. Once you start out lying what will stop you. How do you clean up a lye and whom else would you lye to and to what extent. Now I would lye to save my life , but on the real I keep it real in the name of respect.
I think that most lying is unacceptable. Some is okay, like my mom replacing my goldfish in the middle of the night because she knew I would cry for days if I had seen the poor thing. However I refuse to tell my kids that Santa brings them presents or that the tooth fairy will take away their teeth. My mom tried to explain to me that Santa isn’t real but my grams somewhat undermined her. Lying because you want a child to stop doing something isn’t a good idea ever. Your children will find out and resent you later.. (Like being told I’d get in trouble with the policeman if I rode my bike too far into the neighborhood street. Or that they would throw me out of school if I didn’t get good grades). Telling Tommy he did a great job on the drawing is better than just saying it’s beautiful. You are no longer lying to him and just praising him for working hard on it.
I think letting a child be a child for a while and believing in things is healthy. it developes the childs imagniation and lets them think out of the box as well which helps them later in life they won’t be so closed mind they will have better problem solving…(you can look it up online) as for lieing lieing and telling your child what a beautiful drawing. is all parenting how people raised their children, my mom said she never lied to me when i asked to would tell me the correct answer maybe limited but truthful and my son is 3 and i don’t lie to him, he is starting to draw now and color, and when he shows me i say wow thats interesting drawing bc it is interesting i wanna know what it is, or i will say wow wats that, and he will tell, and when he ask if i like it, i do say yes, bc he will try to draw our dog and house…. so it’s all about wording… when my child ask me a question that i think he is too small or young to know the whole truth about i dnt lie i just tell him that he’s little and i will tell him when he is bigger.
but i think most parents tell lil fibs like the drawing to keep thier child happy and to make them want to draw again and to be positive. and for behavior parents do it too keep and order to thier house and rules and sometimes even to keep thier child safe.
i think lieing or fibbing to most to keep a child happy and safe is acceptable to most. and i don’t think parents realize that they are being hypocrites. or that telling that lil fib is a lie to them
best of luck on ur project