How do I let go of a cheating spouse?
Sharon аѕkеԁ:
Mу husband οf nine years left mе fοr another woman іח December saying һе wουƖԁ always Ɩονе mе аחԁ ԁіԁ חοt want a divorce bυt һе felt trapped. Hе ѕауѕ һе wаחtѕ children аחԁ I аm unable tο һаνе аחу. I wanted tο adopt bυt һе wаѕ חοt interested. Hе іѕ now wіtһ tһе third woman іח 7 months. I саח′t seem tο Ɩеt ɡο, I text аחԁ call һіm аƖƖ tһе time. I feel Ɩіkе such a fool. I һаνе seen a lawyer bυt mу heart іѕ חοt іח іt.
Mу husband οf nine years left mе fοr another woman іח December saying һе wουƖԁ always Ɩονе mе аחԁ ԁіԁ חοt want a divorce bυt һе felt trapped. Hе ѕауѕ һе wаחtѕ children аחԁ I аm unable tο һаνе аחу. I wanted tο adopt bυt һе wаѕ חοt interested. Hе іѕ now wіtһ tһе third woman іח 7 months. I саח′t seem tο Ɩеt ɡο, I text аחԁ call һіm аƖƖ tһе time. I feel Ɩіkе such a fool. I һаνе seen a lawyer bυt mу heart іѕ חοt іח іt.
I think that you deserve better!! I understand that you love him but you should not go back to him because he is a cheating bastard!! and who know’s what kind of diseases he has cathched in those 7 months that he has been around having sex with others!! he will probably cheat again
I won’t be able to answer your question for I’ve never been there in that situation. But, I do want to say that I’m sorry to hear that that’s happened. What he did was completely unfaithful and wrong. Karma will kick him. I know it’s hard and not as easy as we all say. “Move on”. Those are just two words that means nothing compared to 9 years of marriage…but, I suggest that you give it time and find the people that loves you and spend time with them. Let them cope with your pain. He’s already been with 3 womens during the 7 months period…I’m sure you know better to be hanging on…Please be strong…There’s a right man for every right woman.
you poor thing. my heart goes out to you. there is no easy way to let him go you just have to. you will hurt for a long time and grieve but the sooner you start the process the sooner it will finish. seriously the best thing you can do is be kind to yourself. spend lots of time doing things that make you feel good. see friends who make you laugh or that willl let you talk talk talk and talk some more. watch funny movies, not sad or romantic ones, have a massage, get a new hairstyle, take yourself out for your favourite food, plan a vacation by yourself to somewhere you have always wanted to go that he didnt etc. etc. just know that maybe the first few times you do these things it might not feel that great but soon you will find that you are enjoying yourself.
also if you want to cry then do it, it you want to be angry, get yourself a punching bag and punch away – also a great way to get fit, let yourself have all the emotions.
good luck
you have to know that the more you call the more you push him away, you have to have pride. it is difficult, i know. but only time will heal.
Wait…wait…..he’s been with not one…but three women since December?
And you still ‘love’ him? You still think this is because you ‘can’t have kids’. That he doesn’t want a divorce but this type of conduct is okay?
“I feel like such a fool”
Yes my dear…that would be because you ARE one.
And you’ll keep on being one as long as this continues. Got any sisters like you at home? I’ve always wanted a wife and a concubine to go with it.
That said Sharon. Your allowing his behavior to go unchecked because he knows your never going to divorce him and he can just play with as many women as he wants. He knows that when he gets his fill of playmates, he will come back to your waiting arms. Does that make you feel degraded? File for divorce, when he is served the papers, he will come crawling back and be begging forgiveness. At that point you will have the power to do as you wish. Good luck.
First stop calling and texting him. That baby stuff could just be an excuse. He can go threw 8-10-15 women, but the fact is, he is not with you. Stop looking backwards. You can’t change it. Look forward. Do something with your life. Get a job. Get some new friends and go out. Go to the hair stylist and get a new look. If you look good, you’ll feel good, and that will show through, even if you don’t feel that way inside. And do things to start making you happy. It will be hard at first. But move on. If you have to, take baby steps. Say to yourself, “no I will not call him for 2 hours” and get busy doing something else. Then at the end of 2 hrs add 2 more hrs. Sitting around thinking of him is not helping you. Getting a divorce is difficult. Naturally your heart will not be in something you don’t want to do. But face it, he is not coming back or he’d be there already. Start the proceedings and get the divorce over with. If you can’t get over all this you can seek professional help. A good therapist can work wonders. A friend of mine divorced after 23yrs of marriage and 2 children. She got help and today is strong and independent. Please let him go. Live for you. And when you show confidence and independence, Mr. Right could be right around the corner waiting for you.