Lisa asked:


We’ve been together for three years. We’ve had ups and downs, but I’m just tired of trying to make it work. I’m tired of lies and so on. We have been great friends, but lately I don’t have a lover or friend. We live together and we planned on moving to a new location this summer. But I’m moving without him. Basically, I’m scared to bring it up because he can be manipulative and intimidating. How do I break up with him without all of the drama, and maybe be friends?
Oh I’ll definitely give the ring back, I’m not that kind of person. It was his grandmothers, I couldn’t do that to him or his mother.
He lies about relationship stuff, not about friend stuff and unfortunately we’re both sick so there will be no celebrating valentines day.. even though I got him something… he didnt get me anything yet. =(

compulsive lying

lildragonlexi asked:


I am married and I work (volunteer) with a guy who is also married. He and his wife separated several months ago, and we were just great friends then (all of us) and since they have been separated (although I didn’t know for awhile they even were) I started having deep feelings for this guy. He is everything that my husband used to be when we met and married 28 years ago. But, since 2005, my hubby has dove into a deep depression,and he is having alot of Alzheimers problems. He gave up on me, our marriage and anything that went along with it. He tells me he is afraid to be alone—I thoughtit was because he was afraid he would die and I wouldn’t be there—he told me no, the opposite. He is afraid I will die and no one will know how to get ahold of him to tell him. I was very very sick in 2005 and nearly died, and was put in a Nursing Home for 5 1/2 months. I was only 49 years old. Since I came out, I am happy, healthy, and raring to go—he didn’t start declining into a depression—he dove straight down into it full speed ahead off a cliff. His favorite excuse to me is “You just don’t know what it’s like.” Me??? I spent 5 1/2 months in a Nursing Home when I was only 49; nearly died in a coma for 6 days before going there; and he has the nerve to tell me I don’t know what it is like!!!!
I found out he was lying to me about being on an anti-depressant and I got him to a dr. and got him started on one, and he went to stay with some friends for the first 4 weeks til it got into his system to see if it was gonna make a difference. In the meantime, me and this guy have become very close, but because of our strong beliefs in God, we have not had any sexualrelations and will not until we are both free of our spouses. God has told both of us that we are right where we belong for the time being; but that someday….we will be together forever. I have been married 3 times, and all three relationships started with sex, then living together, then marriage. This is so differnt, and it feels wonderful!!!
We talk about a future together someday and of our first time of love-making as “worldwide fireworks” but we both are totally comfortable with just hugs and occasionals kisses…but mostly just being in each others company.
I don’t know what I expect an answer to or about….just mostly needed to tell someone.

my lovers