My friend has been dating this guy and I feel she knows nothing about him. Our friendship is suffering because of him. She met him on a chat line she does so much for him gives him money talks about him 24/7 he consumes her life and he lives hundreds of miles away from her.

This situation worries me so much because my friend is very young naive and inexperienced when it comes to stuff of this nature. I don’t want her to lose herself with him. She has a sincere pure soul and a genuine heart of Gold and I don’t want her to get it broken by some con artist jerk sorry excuse for a man. He’s older than she is 7to8 years if Im not mistaken, he basically has nothing to show for his life. Still living with his parents in his late 20s with no accomplishments.

The lying creep is taking advantage of her

My friend is such a sweet virtuous girl I know hes taken advantage of her kindness. She has tried countless times to help this guy who seem to always be depressed caught in a cycle of alcohol cigarettes and hemp. Its just not right, I tell you this guy is poison!!!

They have been talking over the phone for some time now and when she first told me of him it seemed he was wonderful a dream come true for her. They seemed to have a great connection and so much in common I was so happy for her. Until they decided to share pictures of each other she has a myspace page facebook, etc. He on the other hand has nada. He decided to send her pictures of him through the mail, the pictures were of him between the ages of 7 to18. This guy as I said before is in his late 20s near 30. She has no recent pictures of him at all but he does of her.

My suspicions begin here since its been a while since shes met him I thought it would be nice if she and I would go and see him make a trip to where he lives. Since it was completely out of the question for him to come see her he being broke no job car money. Since all her previous attempts at pleasing him failed she felt maybe the trip would give them the breakthrough they needed, Maybe by being there comforting him physically she could make it better.

Alarm bells: The guy doesn’t even want to see her right now!

He does not even want to see her right now he says. He doesn’t have himself together he wants his own place he wants to feel successful within himself. He would feel very awkward if she saw him in this condition. She feels she loves him unconditionally it does not matter his current state his flaws are invisible to her eyes. She doesn’t care about what he does not have her only concern is his heart and soul which is infested with melancholy and depression.

She continues to talk to him, puts up with his cancerian mood swings, his lack of responsibilty and accountability for his life continues to try to help him encourage him make him happy and he continues to be depressed despite her efforts yet tells her that he loves her and she believes because shes deeply in love with him. She says he will be my husband I’m sure of it.

My friend needs to get her head out of her… uh…  clouds

I am so tired of this situation my friend has lost her mind anyone on the outside can see this guy is bad news and shes too good for him. That she needs to run expediently out of his life. She still wants to love and involve herself with this felon that has nothing, no drive, no anything.

I could respect him if he was a half decent man but Im tired and he is NOT!! Ive tried to see the beautiful sensitive honest loving man that she sees but hes NOT!! He blames everything on everyone else everyone else is the reason why his life is the way that it is. He cant find a job because of his record he cant do things because he has no car, He feels a certain ways because he had a bad childhood he hates his life because he lives in a house with people that hate him and does not want him to succeed. excuses, excuses, excuses.

He is not a man, my friend likes older mature guys this guy does not fit the descripition. If he did he would be a sucess at 28 or working hard to become it. I dont know how she belives he will be a good husband.

He’s using her rather its the money she gives her time to hear him whine and cry just the Ego boost he gets from her. She needs to stop and he needs to fight for her. I feel if I am with a man thats older than me I know Im going to love him whole heartedly but he should treat me like a princess I should not want for anything I wouldnt stress him so he shouldn’t stress me.

I’m so worried about my friend — she is becoming a different person…

I’m just so afraid she’s going to become a different person. she is so beautiful physically she has just lived a southern baptist christian sheltered life like myself. Extremely talented and intelligent shes in her second year of college shes responsible hard working bottomline shes just a well rounded girl her list can go on for days. She will make any man a perfect girlfriend or wife and she would love them with all her heart&soul. This means so much to me she has to be careful of who she loves and this guy isnt Mr. Right and if she continues dealing with this pessimistic kill joy she will become bitter just like her cancerian lover boy!!!

Can anyone offer some advice on how I should handle this situation?

V asked:


What are your thoughts on the meaning on this poem? I find myself coming to a different conclusion each time I read it and now I’m curious to see what other people think. And please note, this isn’t for a school assignment, rather it’s purely to help satisfy my own curiousity. Thanks for sharing your opinion on this poem!

IN PERSPECTIVE

What, keep love in *perspective*? — that old lie,
Forced on the Imagination by the Eye,
Which, mechanistically controlled, will tell,
How rarely table-sides run parallel;
How distance shortens us; how wheels are found,
Oval in shape far oftener than round;
How every ceiling-corner’s out of joint;
How the broad highway tapers to a point –
Can all this fool us lovers? Not for long:
Even the blind will sense that something’s wrong.

~Robert Graves (1895-1985)

angel’s advocate asked:


It is wrong to cheat, but it is also wrong to stay with someone you don’t love or who doesn’t treat you right.

cheating husband

Watermelon Nerd, Spongemom asked:


Are you a generous lover and try to make sure your woman “gets hers” too?
If she didn’t, would you rather she told you, or lie to you to keep your ego boosted?
Basically,
are you a punk or are you a man?

lying

~`~Nichole~`~ due July 21,2009 asked:


If you’re in a relationship now, what happened before the two of you got together doesn’t really matter? Right?? Not exactly, or not to me anyways.

Ok, say you’re “in love” with someone and you know something about their past but you also know that you don’t know the whole truth about it. Myself, I don’t mind being open with my b/f about my past sexual relations and I feel like if I can trust him that much, he should be able to do the same. It was before we got together, but we’re together now and I feel like him keeping that information from me is like he has something to hide… like maybe he’s been lying about everything the whole time. Don’t get me wrong, I love him and I trust him, but why does he get so angry when I ask him about it?

Past sexual relations don’t matter, but that’s something every person in a relationship should talk about.. In case one of the females he was messing with had a std or one of the guys I messed with was sick or something. It would just make me feel better to know.

QUESTION IS.. Should I be worried that he’s keeping it from me, or should I just let it go?
DiRtY.. Pretend you know me, pretend you and I are together.. If I messed with someone you heard about and you know as well as I do that they’re nasty as hell and ANYBODY would question whether or not something got, got.. you wouldn’t be “concerned” if I told you part of the situation and ended it in the middle saying you didn’t need to know the rest cause it wasn’t important?? And say you were my man, you wouldn’t know what I had during this pregnancy because you’re not here. Hope this isn’t getting too personal if u know what I mean.

compulsive liar