I lied to my lover that he got me pregnant and that I had an abortion when I went away for 1 month vacation…I did it to get his attention, feel closer to me, and not forget about me. Of course I didn’t ask him for any money or to “get rich” out of this; I would never do that. This was a big mistake. Even though supporting my decision, he feels incredibly guilty and can’t get past the guilt that I had an abortion; I now feel very bad. He also said to me that he is not comfortable with the idea of us making love anymore because of his guilt.

If I tell him the truth, would it make things worst, or do you think it’s the best thing to do? If you’re a male: would knowing the truth relieve you, or make you very angry/make this worst, and it’s better off I don’t say anything?

karrie asked:


Just would like to know how to handle this. My friend of a year recently got married and was seeing another man got pregnant had an abortion and now is pregnant again by this other man. Her husband was recently informed of her decietfullness by the other lover and at this moment she told him it is all a lie. I know the truth. She made her husband believe that this other man is just upset that she stopped their relationship. And he believes her. I dont want to judge because I have no right to. But it has gotten to the point where she is discreditting my husband(he is good friends with her husband)and I am just disgusted that she keep lying. She has involved me and my family by telling me her little secrets and I just don’t know what to do. I am thinking about confronting her about her lies. I am trying to be her friend and trust her to do what is right but obviously from her previous lies she will not do that and I have to seperate myself from her. But I want to do it in a nice way seeing as we live across the street and our husbands spend a lot of time together. Please help!

lie detection

Coolestchris asked:


me and this girl have been dating for 4 months today and the other day i almost moved away because she was lying so much and i found out the truth. this is a big deal even know most people wouldn’t think so. i tried to make her quit smoking but she refuses to do so, and she’ll do it behind my back all the time with her friends and stuff, so i just had her slow down on the smoking which i think would be more then ok on my part. i really dont want her to smoke..but thats not even the start of it…me and her met on the internet awhile back and we talked for a few months before finaly meeting eachother in person, but the first day that i was here with her we had sex, no this is what made me extreamly mad. before we did anything she said that i was the biggest shes ever had and after we were done she said that i was the best…i found out two days ago that wasn’t true. shes been lying to me this whole time on how many guys she’s slept with and she lied to my face about me being the biggest and the best, the best part is no longer i prob i dont think because last night she said i truely was irght after we were done, but im not sure i can trust her with that statement. literally every promise that she has made shes broken…im really not sure if i should stay with her or not…she says all i need are friends so that we can get time away from eachother and stuff but im nearly always at school or work, same with her. i dont like her friends at all because they’ll try and make her drink and smoke weed and stuff which im not cool with at all. i really love her alot and she says she loves me but i dont think it’s the love that you would give to a lover, maybe just a friend. all my friends say i should leave her and just go back to colorado or arizona to be with someone else which i can do, but im scard if i leave this girl im not going to find another girl that ill love. i even lost my job because i wanted to save our relationship but all she wants to do is hang out with her friends and never be around me. another thing…we live with her parents and her sister. i need advise now, from anyone!!! what should i do?

infidelity

djgspeedbug asked:


over yet you tried to believe the lie and uncover it 6 months later and your lover says they are so sorry and the reason they lied was so you wouldnt break up with them what would you do

infidelity

Arethrea asked:


I have heard that it is the woman who does that and men are more visual creature…blah blah. Then why does my man always switch off the light when we make in love, even though i have never told him to do so. I am just worried that maybe he doesn’t like my body or some aversion to my physical being. Otherwise he is fantastic lover and makes me very happy in bed. Should i ask him this? I am sure he will lie or maybe i cant take the truth.

friends lovers